The editorial on the Dark Elven Anti-Iconic reminded me of the things I like and dislike about the Drow.
Really there are only two things I don't like and would change;
1: The focus on Lolth alone, the other Dark elf deities deserve more attention.
2: The self-destructive aspect of the Drow. When you consider the low birth rate of elves, if Drow were to kill each other, they would have eleminated themselves by now.
Now how would I "revisit" them?
Consider Babalyon 5's Minbari. The Three castes; Warrior, Religion & Worker. Consider that Minbari do not kill Minbari because they belive in reincarnation and the only way a Minbari soul can truly die is by the hand of another Minbari.
Now imagine this applied to the Drow thru a mirror darkly.
Rule #1: Drow do not kill Drow. When the Dark Elves were sundered from True Elves, there was a finite number of Drow. There can never be more than that number because since Dark Elves are denied the Heavens, their souls reincarnate into the next generation. There is only one way for a Drow soul to be lost, death at the hands of another Dark Elf. Killing your own is the quickest way to becoming a Drider. This is also why renegade Drow are so feared, they are the only creatures in exisistence that can truly destroy the destiny of the Drow.
Drow society is based on Caste and position in the order of things. No Drow has to ask, they just "know" where they fit in, they just "know" who they can command and who they must obay. This is why Renegade Drow have so much trouble "fitting in", they cannot sense the order of things with other races.
There are three castes;
Relgion: Priests of Vhaeraun, Anti-Paladins of Selvetarm, Dark Druids of Ghaunadaur and Priestess of Lolth. Also, Sorcerers and Warlocks are also part of the Religious caste, as their magic is considered a divine gift.
Warriors: Fighters, Rangers, Scouts, Psychic Warriors and Lurks are most common. Wizards and Psions may be part of the Warrior caste if they Multi-Class into or from a combat oriented class. Monks are very rare as unarmed combat just doesn't make sense to Drow, you have a sword, use it!
Worker: Don't let the name fool you, this is the caste of Rogues, Bards and Assassins. Although they also serve Drow society as traders and craftsmen, they also are the diplomats those who would talk to the Drow meet. Most Wizards and Psions fall into this caste since they focus on crafting wonderous items and protecting Drow cities.
The Sado-Masochistic aspect of Dark Elves applies to everyone else. Most other creatures are just slaves, not worth more than the work they can do. Some creatures are mercenary tools, they can go where Drow cannot and they can deal with renegade Drow without upseting the Destiny of the Drow. A few creatures are respected allies; Dragons, Illithid and Aboleths must be delt with carefully. Drow are not stupid, they respect power and know better than to piss off those who could be a threat to their destiny.