thejeff wrote:Hama wrote:I think that making emotional judgements based on prior bad experiences and reading too much into what someone wrote aren't good things.
But very, very human things.
Extrapolating from past experience and guessing at what people mean when they might not be saying the exact truth is a big part of what we do.
Especially when it comes to avoiding bad experiences. I'm sure most of the GMs that led to those bad experiences weren't up front about how bad they were going to be.
Hama, I can agree with you in the abstract. That's part of why I didn't want to start throwing accusations.
Consider. If what someone says/writes agrees almost precisely with your 'prior bad experiences,' how likely are you to decide join their group? Or might you just decide to pass on them and find a different group who says things the match up with prior good experiences?
As I said, a few words along this line are not enough by themselves to cause me to get up and leave a table. But it is a red flag that does get me thinking along that line and watching carefully how things are going to proceed.
I can absolutely guarantee you that not one of those 'prior bad experiences' said they were going to try see how miserable they could make my gaming experience. However, that's pretty much what happened.
I personally have a moderately limited amount of time that I am able/willing to devote to this hobby especially face-to-face gaming sessions. They aren't always easy to work into my schedule.
Therefore I will put that time into a situation that seems most likely to be fun rather than not fun. How do I go about making that decision? The only way I know of to make an evaluation like that is based on what I have experienced in my life.
I have had one GM say she was going to see just how horrible she could make the game for me... Such upfront honesty was indeed a unique experience however.