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I hate this. I really hate this. :(
The kidlet has some real issues with controlling his body and as a result I frequently get beat upon, these attacks often coming in the form of 'hugs'. Tonight was exceptionally bad so as a punishment I had to restrict him from being able to hug me. There were many tears and I end up feeling like the bad guy. :(
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That's really sad news, Lynora. I hope he can get better control so you aren't forced to do that a lot in the future. I imagine it's tough to be firm with him, especially about that, but he has to learn boundaries somehow. Ugh.
It tears me up inside. I just hope it gets good results in the long term. I just wish that anyone could tell me what exactly is wrong with my kid. :(
It tears me up inside. I just hope it gets good results in the long term. I just wish that anyone could tell me what exactly is wrong with my kid. :(I hate this. I really hate this. :(
The kidlet has some real issues with controlling his body and as a result I frequently get beat upon, these attacks often coming in the form of 'hugs'. Tonight was exceptionally bad so as a punishment I had to restrict him from being able to hug me. There were many tears and I end up feeling like the bad guy. :(
:(
That's really sad news, Lynora. I hope he can get better control so you aren't forced to do that a lot in the future. I imagine it's tough to be firm with him, especially about that, but he has to learn boundaries somehow. Ugh.
*Not a father advice: How much discipline is he getting? Is daddy available to help you with him?
*Not a father advice: How much discipline is he getting? Is daddy available to help you with him?It tears me up inside. I just hope it gets good results in the long term. I just wish that anyone could tell me what exactly is wrong with my kid. :(I hate this. I really hate this. :(
The kidlet has some real issues with controlling his body and as a result I frequently get beat upon, these attacks often coming in the form of 'hugs'. Tonight was exceptionally bad so as a punishment I had to restrict him from being able to hug me. There were many tears and I end up feeling like the bad guy. :(
:(
That's really sad news, Lynora. I hope he can get better control so you aren't forced to do that a lot in the future. I imagine it's tough to be firm with him, especially about that, but he has to learn boundaries somehow. Ugh.
His dad is very involved with him, and there's plenty of discipline and consistency to it. We've done extensive behavioral therapy and are pretty much at the end of out tether over this. There's an ADHD diagnosis, but that's clearly not all that's going on. He's being tested for a variety of possibilities, but right now it's a whole lot of nobody knows for sure.
His dad is very involved with him, and there's plenty of discipline and consistency to it. We've done extensive behavioral therapy and are pretty much at the end of out tether over this. There's an ADHD diagnosis, but that's clearly not all that's going on. He's being tested for a variety of possibilities, but right now it's a whole lot of nobody knows for sure.
Hmmmm, how old is he?
Before I get too more personal, I would just say, I think he will get better in the long run. You and Daddy sound like you are doing a good job, no need to put blame on yourselves.
His dad is very involved with him, and there's plenty of discipline and consistency to it. We've done extensive behavioral therapy and are pretty much at the end of out tether over this. There's an ADHD diagnosis, but that's clearly not all that's going on. He's being tested for a variety of possibilities, but right now it's a whole lot of nobody knows for sure.Hmmmm, how old is he?
Before I get too more personal, I would just say, I think he will get better in the long run. You and Daddy sound like you are doing a good job, no need to put blame on yourselves.
He's 6. It's pretty heartbreaking when your kid has problems. I'm not blaming myself. I'm frustrated because I'm at the end of what I can do to help him and nothing works. He's unable to relate to his peers and can barely function in a structured environment. He's a smart kid and amazingly sweet. And I hate seeing him struggling like this. It's so hard waiting and being patient with all the testing process.
He's 6. It's pretty heartbreaking when your kid has problems. I'm not blaming myself. I'm frustrated because I'm at the end of what I can do to help him and nothing works. He's unable to relate to his peers and can barely function in a structured environment. He's a smart kid and amazingly sweet. And I hate seeing him struggling like this. It's so hard waiting and being patient with all the testing process.His dad is very involved with him, and there's plenty of discipline and consistency to it. We've done extensive behavioral therapy and are pretty much at the end of out tether over this. There's an ADHD diagnosis, but that's clearly not all that's going on. He's being tested for a variety of possibilities, but right now it's a whole lot of nobody knows for sure.Hmmmm, how old is he?
Before I get too more personal, I would just say, I think he will get better in the long run. You and Daddy sound like you are doing a good job, no need to put blame on yourselves.
I hate to ask, but have they tested for Aspergers or some related form of autism?
I'm sorry to hear about your trouble with your son, Lynora. It must be frustrating to feel like the bad guy.It is. I'll get over it. But I appreciate the sympathy. Sometimes I just need to hear someone else telling me I'm not really the bad guy. :)You're not the bad guy. Seriously.
Thanks, taig. You're awesome. :)
He's 6. It's pretty heartbreaking when your kid has problems. I'm not blaming myself. I'm frustrated because I'm at the end of what I can do to help him and nothing works. He's unable to relate to his peers and can barely function in a structured environment. He's a smart kid and amazingly sweet. And I hate seeing him struggling like this. It's so hard waiting and being patient with all the testing process.
I understand. My sister has had the roughest time with the younger of her two boys. Think combination of acid reflux and really bad adhd. He went on ritalin (sp?) at a very young age. My sister has been a fully qualified teacher of special needs kids with extensive experience teaching those with behavior disorders and it has been very difficult for her.
When she first asked the doctor if he should be put on it, the doctor stated that he was very young and that she should probably try "this" first and look for improvement before going so far as ritalin. To this, my sister responded that she had tried that for so long and in this and that way with results that were nothing. To which the doc described a second step she should take to which my sister went into detail about how long and to what degree she had pursued this line. (I did mention that she was fully trained in such things, didn't I?) To which the discussion continued to a third and then fourth and then fifth option each ending with my sister explaining how she had followed that line with no result. Stunned to the degree she had already pursued non-drug methods and with no other ideas left, they put him on ritalin and it worked to a degree. I'm not sure if he still takes it or not.
Would it be bad if I stated that recently they have had a lot of success by getting him a dog of his own that is hyper and loveable?
He's 6. It's pretty heartbreaking when your kid has problems. I'm not blaming myself. I'm frustrated because I'm at the end of what I can do to help him and nothing works. He's unable to relate to his peers and can barely function in a structured environment. He's a smart kid and amazingly sweet. And I hate seeing him struggling like this. It's so hard waiting and being patient with all the testing process.I understand. My sister has had the roughest time with the younger of her two boys. Think combination of acid reflux and really bad adhd. He went on ritalin (sp?) at a very young age. My sister has been a fully qualified teacher of special needs kids with extensive experience teaching those with behavior disorders and it has been very difficult for her.
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That sounds very similar to what I did a few months ago. My kid was put on Adderall, but it didn't help.
Thanks for sharing that, Thing. It does help to know that there are other people out there having the same struggles.
He's 6. It's pretty heartbreaking when your kid has problems. I'm not blaming myself. I'm frustrated because I'm at the end of what I can do to help him and nothing works. He's unable to relate to his peers and can barely function in a structured environment. He's a smart kid and amazingly sweet. And I hate seeing him struggling like this. It's so hard waiting and being patient with all the testing process.His dad is very involved with him, and there's plenty of discipline and consistency to it. We've done extensive behavioral therapy and are pretty much at the end of out tether over this. There's an ADHD diagnosis, but that's clearly not all that's going on. He's being tested for a variety of possibilities, but right now it's a whole lot of nobody knows for sure.Hmmmm, how old is he?
Before I get too more personal, I would just say, I think he will get better in the long run. You and Daddy sound like you are doing a good job, no need to put blame on yourselves.
hey if it will help, i can tell you my parents thought I was mentally retarded when i was a kid (and yes I am using the R word. This was in the 70's. Deal with it.) That was because I had not started talking until I was almost 3 or 4 years old. My parents put me in a special school for a short while, and whetever it did, it worked ok for me.
So the moral is, I believe it will work out for you as well
*Bends down and "fertilizes" E7* YAP! YAP!*blink*
This is the new home?
Hugs, Lyn. Man hug, Eric.
Hitting the pillow soon.
Welcome to the new thread, E7!
Here's a nice, sunny spot for you.
<Shoves Mairkurion out of sunny spot>
Where-ever I am is, by definition, a sunny spot. But you're right...let's make room next to me for Emperor7.
He's 6. It's pretty heartbreaking when your kid has problems. I'm not blaming myself. I'm frustrated because I'm at the end of what I can do to help him and nothing works. He's unable to relate to his peers and can barely function in a structured environment. He's a smart kid and amazingly sweet. And I hate seeing him struggling like this. It's so hard waiting and being patient with all the testing process.I understand. My sister has had the roughest time with the younger of her two boys. Think combination of acid reflux and really bad adhd. He went on ritalin (sp?) at a very young age. My sister has been a fully qualified teacher of special needs kids with extensive experience teaching those with behavior disorders and it has been very difficult for her.
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That sounds very similar to what I did a few months ago. My kid was put on Adderall, but it didn't help.
Thanks for sharing that, Thing. It does help to know that there are other people out there having the same struggles.
All the same, they did not put me on any drugs, at least not that I'm aware of, I am fortunate for that, I don't think drugging kids is the right answer.
Funny story time...
My sister had a lot of traiing and experience dealing with behavior troubled kids from teaching. she and her husband had a lot of experience dealing with their own youngest boy.
Then my brother-in-law became coach of the kid's soccer team and my sister was around to help out a lot. One thing he did really well was keep kids continually active and involved in both play and practice. So, although he didn't have the experience or skill set of a soccer coach he created an environment where all the kids were continually moving and physically involved.
This was ideal for their son and amazed all the parents who knew how much of a handful my nephew was. Next year, every parent in the district who had an adhd kid joined his team. The method of keeping them all continually physically involved meant that they all loved the game, played ferociously focused, and developed their skills through continual play rather than running drills. They annihilated every team in the region. My brother-in-law works for Coca-Cola and the team became referred to by the opposing teams' parents as the Coca-Cola steroid (sp?) team.
All the same, they did not put me on any drugs, at least not that I'm aware of, I am fortunate for that, I don't think drugging kids is the right answer.
He's 6. It's pretty heartbreaking when your kid has problems. I'm not blaming myself. I'm frustrated because I'm at the end of what I can do to help him and nothing works. He's unable to relate to his peers and can barely function in a structured environment. He's a smart kid and amazingly sweet. And I hate seeing him struggling like this. It's so hard waiting and being patient with all the testing process.I understand. My sister has had the roughest time with the younger of her two boys. Think combination of acid reflux and really bad adhd. He went on ritalin (sp?) at a very young age. My sister has been a fully qualified teacher of special needs kids with extensive experience teaching those with behavior disorders and it has been very difficult for her.
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That sounds very similar to what I did a few months ago. My kid was put on Adderall, but it didn't help.
Thanks for sharing that, Thing. It does help to know that there are other people out there having the same struggles.
My parents made that choice for me. I have ADHD and dyscalculia. Made school pretty rough. Having to go through all that without medication...it put me back a while academically and socially. I guess that gives me some insight into the situation from both sides of it. What I've learned is that every situation is unique. And sweeping statements about drugging kids being bad are pouring salt in the wound for those parents who have had to make that difficult decision. They're not wrong. It's not bad parenting. Sometimes it is the best thing for the child.
Funny story time...
My sister had a lot of traiing and experience dealing with behavior troubled kids from teaching. she and her husband had a lot of experience dealing with their own youngest boy.
Then my brother-in-law became coach of the kid's soccer team and my sister was around to help out a lot. One thing he did really well was keep kids continually active and involved in both play and practice. So, although he didn't have the experience or skill set of a soccer coach he created an environment where all the kids were continually moving and physically involved.
This was ideal for their son and amazed all the parents who knew how much of a handful my nephew was. Next year, every parent in the district who had an adhd kid joined his team. The method of keeping them all continually physically involved meant that they all loved the game, played ferociously focused, and developed their skills through continual play rather than running drills. They annihilated every team in the region. My brother-in-law works for Coca-Cola and the team became referred to by the opposing teams' parents as the Coca-Cola steroid (sp?) team.
Sounds like he's an awesome coach. :)
Hang in there, Lynora. My best friend just got the right diagnosis for his son after a year of severe difficulties, and he's seen marked improvement with the right strategies and medication. (In his case, Asperger's.)
Good to hear. I appreciate the encouragement. It's easy to get bogged own in the process. Just a difficult day today, but I know it's going to be okay in the long run.
Aww Lyn, sorry about the rough night. I know full well how you feel. Like Taig I was going to suggest Aspeger's tests. Or ask if you had looked into it. They looked at that for Kellen (creepy I know) But decided that no he didn't qualify. Bryce is a great kid. Remember that. And you guys are AWESOME parents. Are you still using the Adderol (sp)? Have you messed with the dosage at all? We had to up Kellen's. Now he is functioning amazingly well! Even got STUDENT OF THE WEEK last week!! For the whole school! He went from almost expelled to Student of teh freaking week! Things will work out for you babe. Deep breath.
Eric. I will agree with Lyn. You simply can not make blanket statements like that. I am glad that you didn't need the meds. I hate to say it, but some kids do. My son almost was expelled. Was seeing a behavioral therapist and simply was getting no where. After fighting against meds for 4 years we gave in. They work. Some kids need them. Period. I sleep just fine at night knowing that I tried everything else. That it was not my go to. And that FINALLY my son is able to focus in school and work through frustration like a normal child. He is finally able to meet his potential and is already being set up for Gifted and Talented testing for next year.
Good night folks. I am taking my very sleepy hubby to bed.
Lyn, get some rest. Eric, take good care of your lady. And just in case you were wondering, no hard feelings over the meds thing, just a soft spot for a parent who had to make that hard decision. *Hugs*
See yall tomorrow.
*recovered from being b***h slapped, he he.
Yeah, I think drugs are a last resort, and sometimes you do need them, just kids respond differently to the drugs, because they have not grown up yet.
every case is different.
Wow, that is AWESOME about Kellen. :D
I am so happy to hear that he is doing so much better.Goodnight, Solnes. And thanks for the reminder to breathe :)
This kind of stuff, makes me look like a fool, he he. But I have not raised any kids so I only throw my opinion out there, i am leery of drugs, and would prefer to avoid them if at all possible.
*puts on hypocrite hat, as I drink some coffee, he he.
I forgot to mention, I have been drinking coffee since i was like 10 years old, he he